This Mother’s Day is especially poignant for me, since it was only last Mother’s Day that we boarded a plane to Ethiopia in order to meet our girls and appear in court to officially adopt them. We’ve all been roomies for a little over ten months now, which is just long enough for them to have formed some interesting opinions of their mom. This is good, because when DA asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day, I said simply, “To laugh. A lot.” He’s a good husband. I got what I requested.
The kids were interviewed separately. Some of these answers are surprisingly accurate, some are ridiculously false, and there are several that I wish were more true—but somehow, by God’s grace, my kids seem to have discerned my intentions, despite my failure in sometimes following through. They actually said much more than I included here, and it was all very kind. Many answers were of a more personal nature, though, so I’m mostly only posting the funniest responses. I think this (abridged) Q&A was the perfect gift, as well as a humorous family update.
1. What is something Mom always says to you?
- “That she loves me. That I’m precious.” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “I love you, you are my precious baby.” –Abigail, 7
- “Me, I love you.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “I love you. Go to bed.” –Isaiah, 5
2. What makes Mom happy?
- “When we help clean up the house.” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Us” Abigail, 7
- “Cuddling and hugging her” –Isaiah, 5
3. What makes Mom laugh?
- “Jokes and our accents.” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “When we do funny stuff.” –Abigail, 7
- “If we say funny stuff.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “When we tickle her.” –Zoey, 5-ish
4. How old is Mom?
- “33 or 32” –Lydia, 12-ish [winner, for accuracy]
- “23” –Abigail, 7 [winner, for thoughtfulness]
- “13” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “12” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “43” –Isaiah, 5 [no dessert tonight]
5. How tall is Mom?
- “6 feet” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “10 feet” –Abigail, 7
- “14 feet” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “Big.” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “A little bit littler than Dad.” –Isaiah, 5
6. What is Mom’s favorite thing to do?
- “Talking to Dad” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Cuddling and getting stuff done” –Abigail, 7
- “She wants to go have coffee and alone time.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “Eating with us at the table” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “Play with me and tickle me” –Isaiah, 5
7. What does Mom do when you are not around?
- “She has quiet time and watches a movie or TV. She prays.” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Clean up” –Abigail, 7
- “She cleans.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “Nothing. I can’t see her when I’m not here. Pray maybe?” –Zoey, 5-ish
8. What is Mom really good at?
- “Telling people about Jesus or helping them.” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Painting.” –Abigail, 7
- “She cooks really good. She cleans really good.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “She is good at making food and making clean.” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “Cooking and making cakes.” –Isaiah, 5
9. What is Mom not that good at?
- “Transforming Transformers.” –Isaiah, 5 [This is the absolute truth.]
10. Where is Mom’s favorite place to go?
- “Djibouti.” –Abigail, 7
- “France.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “She likes Dinosaur World like me.” –Isaiah, 5
11. What makes you proud of Mom?
- “I’m proud that she loves and cares about me. She doesn’t want me to get hit by a car. She always says, ‘Wear a helmet!’” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “When she cleaned up the basement and changed [rearranged] the living room.” –Ruby, 7-ish
12. What cartoon character should Mom be?
- “Batman or Spider Man, because I like them” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Maybe a Mom character?” –Abigail, 7
- “Twilight or Rainbow Dash or Girl Spider-Man” –Zoey, 5-ish
13. What do you and Mom do together?
- “She tells me about the Bible. Sometimes we clean and cook together.” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Cuddle and paint” –Abigail, 7
- “She helps me with school.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “Pray for each other, talk about what we like, and what to eat” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “Sometimes she lets me help cook.” –Isaiah, 5
14. How are you and Mom the same?
- “Maybe the way we get angry? We also have brown eyes.” –Lydia, 12-ish
15. How are you and Mom different?
- “God make me brown and make Mom white.” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “She is not a boy.” –Isaiah, 5
16. How do you know Mom loves you?
- “Because she always tells me” –Lydia, 12-ish
- “Cuddles me when I’m hurt” –Abigail, 7
- “Because she feeds me and buys us clothes. If we do bad things, she forgives us.” –Ruby, 7-ish
- “She tells me when it is sleep time.” –Zoey, 5-ish
- “Because I am her son.” –Isaiah, 5
It is a blessing to see such fruit coming out of the sometimes-painful growth our family has endured over these past months. It is an honor to know that while I am hiding out by the washing machine, contemplating whether or not I have the requisite time and skill to tunnel out through the dryer exhaust vent, these are the five kids who will be tirelessly bellowing out, “MOM!” from two floors above.